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Resilience Is Futile: The Life and Death and Life of Julie S. Lalonde

Resilience Is Futile: The Life and Death and Life of Julie S. Lalonde

by Julie S. Lalonde
  • feminism
  • general-other-non-fiction
  • memoir

For over a decade, Julie Lalonde, an award-winning advocate for women’s rights, kept a secret.

She crisscrossed the country, denouncing violence against women and giving hundreds of media interviews along the way. Her work made national headlines for challenging universities and taking on Canada’s top military brass. Appearing fearless on the surface, Julie met every interview and event with the same fear in her gut: was he there?

Fleeing intimate partner violence at age 20, Julie was stalked by her ex-partner for over ten years, rarely mentioning it to friends, let alone addressing it publicly. The contrast between her public career as a brave champion for women with her own private life of violence and fear meant a shaky and exhausting balancing act.

Resilience sounds like a positive thing, so why do we often use it against women? Tenacity and bravery might help us survive unimaginable horrors, but where are the spaces for anger and vulnerability?

Resilience is Futile is a story of survival, courage and ultimately, hope. But it’s also a challenge to the ways we understand trauma and resilience. It’s the story of one survivor who won’t give up and refuses to shut up.


Julie S. Lalonde, author

Julie S. Lalonde is an internationally recognized women’s rights advocate and public educator. Julie works with various feminist organizations dedicated to ending sexual violence, engaging bystanders and building communities of support. She is a frequent media source on issues of violence against women and her work has appeared on Al Jazeera, CBC’s The National, TVO’s The Agenda, Vice, WIRED magazine and FLARE, among others. She is a recipient of the Governor General’s Award in Commemoration of the Persons Case.


  • Ultimately, "Resilience Is Futile" is more than a story about being stalked. It is a memoir about unlearning how to love those who have hurt us and learning to love ourselves. - Shazia Hafiz Ramji, Quill & Quire Link to review


  • Runner Up, Independent Publisher Book Award - Women's Issues, 2021
  • Shortlisted for Foreword INDIES Book of the Year Award - Autobiography and Memoir (Adult Nonfiction), 2020
  • Legislative Assembly of Ontario Speaker's Book Award, 2020

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rights available: World

Additional Information

age range: Adult

number of pages: 192

publication date: 02/27/202002

Original language of pub: English

Materials Available: finished book